Hey y’all! So, I have the outfit I was planning on posting that fateful day back in December when I ran out of blogger space. πŸ˜› That issue is resolved, and I have these pictures still to share. πŸ™‚
If you’d like to know what I wore to church this morning, I posted my navy lace dress on my sewing blog. πŸ™‚

So, I’d like to take a minute to explain why I post so many pictures. Contrary to what it may seem like, it’s not because I like posting pictures of myself. I would dress someone else and share those outfits with you if it was convenient, but it’s not. It would triple the time it takes me to blog, and I can’t afford to do that. There are flaws with the modest fashion blog model, for sure, so I’m doing what I can. It may seem oxymoronic to say, “modest is not drawing attention to yourself” and then throw yourself on the internet to be looked at. I don’t like it, I don’t like it at all. Honestly, I’m embarrassed by it, and cringe when I overhear my parents telling a new acquaintance about this blog. Attention is not my cup of tea and it doesn’t sit quite right with my idea of meek. But you girls seem to be encouraged by my posts, so I continue as a ministry, because I really feel God’s blessing on it. Don’t get me wrong, I really, really enjoy blogging. I love creating new outfits to share, I love meeting so many amazing girls from so many places, I love being used as an encouragement.  

Now, why do I post so many pictures of the same outfit? I mean, wouldn’t one or two be enough? Yes, maybe. But when I visit a fashion blog (which, admittedly, is very rarely, so I’m not thinking of particulars), I love to see how an outfit moves. I love to see what it looks like moving in real life (thus all my twirly photos). And for me, an outfit is a whole picture. It’s not a picture of shoes, then a hand-on-hip-showing-belt-and-skirt picture, then earrings, with no pictures of the whole ensemble. The hairdo, the make-up, jewelry, outfit, and shoes are all one “look” and personally I like to see them as such (thus I shot down my dad’s paper-bag-on-head idea ;). I love the detail shots on other fashion blogs, and I’d love to do that more on mine (I either always forget or my photographer is not feeling well), but I also like to know the full picture. So, now you know my thought process, ha.

Shirt: Kohl’s? (~$7)
Skirt: Made by me
Belt: Gift (it came with a shirt)
Beret: Sears ($4)
Silver Heels: Payless ($12)
Earrings: Walmart ($4)

So, what do y’all think of the modest fashion blog oxymoron? I really feel the need to be real with y’all, so in reading my posts I hope you’ll understand when I think outloud and share where my heart is coming from. It can be hard to articulate over the internet. πŸ™‚

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30 thoughts on “Early December”

  1. I don't think you have to apologize. πŸ™‚ The number of photos is just right (and for the reasons you stated). Besides, your blog is all about the outfits, so it doesn't come across as "immodest." I really do find your blog inspiring, as it is difficult (for me) to style skirts – keep up the great work!

  2. I don't think that modest fashion blogging is an oxymoron-if the women are striving to do what is right which I knew already that you are doing. I have heard criticism only from quarters that like to tear people down. Modesty in this context refers to dressing and it is always helpful for a woman to show others how she understand modesty for herself and how she makes it feminine and lovely which can be so encouraging for others. If a woman were posting hundreds of photos and sounding self-righteous legalistic or something then there would be a problem. But the concept itself is not wrong-it is sometimes to work through one's own style or to encourage others or simply for fun. You don't have oodles and oodles of photos; I have never thought that. You need more than one photo to see all the details. I think you have been a very lovely and mature example which is amazing to me because I am a bit older and see well-taught girls your age who would rather push the line than see how good they could be. You have never been legalistic or self-righteous but simply explained what YOU yourself thought you ought to do and way in a completely empathetic way. There will always be those who criticize, frequently out of spite-just follow the Bible and your conscience and you will be fine.

    1. Thank you so much for your thoughts! I'm glad I have come across well to you. Thankfully, I haven't met any opposition or nay-sayers and haven't gotten any complaints really, these were just things I've tried to think through and wanted to share my heart on. πŸ™‚

  3. Wow, it's so nice that somebody thinks the same way!! I feel like SUCH a dork every time I feature a fashion post… yet that's where most my pageviews go!
    Thanks so much for sharing… it's so nice to hear I'm not the only one πŸ˜‰

  4. I don't think it comes across as immodest. The different pictures not only allow us to see the way the outfit "moves" but what it looks like from different angles. It wouldn't do any good to wear an outfit where the front view was modest but the back or side view was not. Posting different pictures lets us see that not only is the outfit modest in the front, but in the back and from the side as well!!:)

    You project nothing but a modest and humble attitude in all of your posts. Your blog and outfit posts have helped me the last couple of months in getting my outfits "together". The other thing that has inspired me is how you wear hats a lot. I have over the past couple of months made a ton of hats for my sisters and I to wear and I have found they can really take an outfit up to the next level, if not only in cuteness (smile) but also to incorporate more color and interest.

    God bless you for being a light in the area of modesty!
    Maria H.

  5. Well, i never thought that you were bringing atttention to yourself, but more to the modest clothing.
    The way you dress it is very modest and i don't think it really does. If you know what i mean, i think if you were wearing some more revealing clothing it might be a problem. But i find your blog so encouarging and inspirering. I really want to thank you so much for sharing wiht us so personally and modesty. You are really being a true sister in christ.
    Thanks Hannah

  6. I feel the exact same way. I am just now starting to post pictures on my own blog because of the same reason. Happy to see that I'm not the only one! You've been a huge inspiration for me, though. I love seeing all of the pictures of your outfits. πŸ™‚ All of your pictures are classy, and it's obvious that you aren't trying to just get everyone's attention. πŸ™‚
    ~Kalin from http://modestyismypolicy.blogspot.com/
    (And, P.S, go Tennessee Vols!:D)

  7. I think that you are doing a beautiful job reaching people through a medium that is relatively new. There aren't "rules" for how to balance humility with a growing internet audience, so you can't do it "right" OR "wrong." This automatically renders all criticism (good or bad) as nothing more than personal opinion.

    I'm not sure what has prompted your concerns about the possible incongruity of modesty and fashion blogging, but I hope that you aren't deterred from your efforts. Traditionally, I have not been a consciously modest dresser and I'm probably older than most of your audience here. I was not raised with the beliefs you espouse nor do I agree with everything that you post. However, I have found a great deal of inspiration in your words and the representation of your daily life and I can honestly say that you have directly impacted the way I think about personal responsibility in dress.

    For what it's worth, I'm glad you do this. It has taken no small measure of bravery and discipline to maintain this network of blogs as long as you have. You exude genuine joy in what you describe as your "ministry," and it would be tragic if you allowed fear or the uninformed opinions of other people to dissuade you from the excellent work that you do.

    1. Thank you for your comment! I'm glad to help anyone in any way I can. Nothing in particular has brought these thoughts, just trying to be consistent in how I live and think through implications. I don't want to say one thing (Be modest!) and do another (look at *me!*), especially with 700 people watching, because I represent more than myself. πŸ™‚ I just decided to post this today because I didn't really have anything else to say with this outfit, ha. πŸ˜€ Blessings!

  8. I've been meaning to ask how you felt about it. I do a fashion post every week as well and someone has once remarked "You like taking pictures of yourself". I don't….I don't want to come across as prideful but I am greatly encouraged by others that show REAL modest outfits and since I stay at home all day it helps me stay encouraged to dress up even if "noone" see me.

    Thank you for what you do!

    Irisβ™₯ -The Blue Birdhouse

  9. Hey Livy,
    Very classy outfit! perfect for church! I think that the modest fashion blog oxymoron is unavoidable! I would feel the same way if I had a fashion blog! I have never thought that you came across as trying to draw attention to yourself! Now perhaps it helps that I know you personally! I love that you post a a lot of pictures! I like to see an outfit from different angles, and as you said, I like
    to see how it moves! I also like to see it as a whole!
    Love, Katie

  10. Well, I'm just going to repeat what everyone else is saying here. Because it is true. When I look at your blog, I don't see a girl showing herself off. I see a girl who is trying to encourage other girls to dress modestly and fashionably. I see a girl who cares. And almost everyone of your post has some biblical reference in it that shows where your heart really is.
    I never think of you as vain or immodest because your actions of words show differently.
    As far as pictures go, I totally agree with you. I love your style of pictures. You're definitely my favorite blogger!

    Love ya,

  11. Your blog is so encouraging to me and I love seeing your fashion posts, they give me tons of inspiration for my own outfits. You are also a wonderful role model for us pre-teens and early teenagers~ I know I sometimes struggle with being modest and fashionable, but not frumpy. Most of the people at my school don't dress the same way that I do, and not all of them agree with my clothing choices because they are "out of the norm" (typical teenager stuff πŸ™‚ But Fresh Modesty has really been a great encouragement to me, especially because I know that I am NOT the only one!;)
    Thanks for blogging, it's always awesome!

  12. When i started reading your blog and seeing your pictures. I didn't dress or act modest. But your witness of dress and a modest spirit has so enpowered me to rethink modest and desire to be modest. You have really change my life and i'm so thankful.

  13. Hi Olivia, it's Danielle here again! I know how you feel, I never am comfortable in the spotlight. But you are right, you encourage many girls, including me! I love your outfit, the shirt looks great, and even the skirt is impressive! I like your hat too.

  14. Though everybody has already said it before, I'll repeat, because it's really how I feel about this question : your blog is useful, the pictures are always great and I never asked myself the question "is she trying to draw the attention to herself ?"…So I would just like to encourage you and tell you how much your blog has been a blessing to me since I discovered it in July : at that period I had a tough time because I was dressing modestly and none of my french friends did fully understand my decision to wear skirts all the time and wear undershirts when I feel like my tops are too low-cut…(especially since my position on that point haven't always been like it is today !) But then I landed on your blog and it REALLY was a breath of FRESH air…Thank you very much for that…I'm trying to comment after every post because I really want you to continue, I love discovering the outfits you put together and it's inspiring…I love also the thoughts you publish in here, that are about the modesty in our hearts, because clothing is just a small part of modesty…
    Have a great day dear Olivia, and BTW the outfit is really nice (is this a recent skirt ? I don't remember seeing it on your sewing blog or anything !)
    Blessings from France

  15. Hello Olivia! I love your outfit, the shirt is so cool, and the skirt is impressive! I know how you feel about putting a show of yourself, I never feel comfortable, but you are an encouragement to many girls, including me! You're right, you do want to show how the outfit "Moves" with you and such. I really like your hat too!

  16. This was a nice post to see. I agree… and I too find the modest fashion blogger paradox interesting πŸ™‚ Getting to know you on S&S before you even started your blogs let me get to know your heart, and that's one reason why I've stuck around. True, I don't comment often, but I keep my eye on both your blogs.

    By the way, I just nominated your blog here: http://diyfashion.about.com/u/ntn/diyfashion101/2013-Nominations-Best-Fashion-Blog/form.htm
    I thought you might like to let your readers know about it. (not that you want the extra attention!) πŸ˜‰

    Jordan aka Jobeth

  17. Excellent post! I used to wrestle with this years ago and your reasoning is spot on. Your absolutely right about being a good and needed example for others. My blog is a humor blog with modest fashion posts thrown in here and there. Thankfully I have four daughters who model for me so I don't have to constantly look at my own mug. πŸ˜‰

    About your outfit, that skirt is gorgeous! But then I'm partial to super long skirts since that's all I wear. Keep up your beautiful modest style!

    -Lady Modesty

  18. I want to say Olivia that you are a huge encouragement to me… and your ministry is a huge blessing – THANKYOU! may God richly bless you! You have such a beautiful heart!
    Keep serving Him!

  19. Lovely outfit. I think I love your blog. My first visit. Great photo's and I agree lots of
    photo's are good. You made the skirt wow. I noticed you have a sewing blog I'll have to
    visit. I love the ministry of a Modest Dress blog. Thanks for sharing I am off to see what your
    Have a wonderful evening,

  20. Olivia,

    I don't normally comment on blogs of people I've never met. But I decided to make an exception.

    I found your blog back in late November while searching for modern, modest clothing. I. love. your. blog. Seeing so many (I read through almost all your archives) fresh modest clothing ideas inspired me. I enjoy sewing and promptly bought your recommended Butterick skirt pattern. Although I've only had time to make one skirt so far, I loved the pattern and look forward to using it many more times. πŸ™‚

    Your blog also inspired me to look at repurposing clothing in a new light. Instead of getting rid of old clothing or trying to find the perfect top at Goodwill, I've loved altering clothes to make the look I want.

    Thank you so much for all you do to encourage fellow believers!

  21. Keep it up! I definitely visit your blog for the encouraging photos of "appropriate dressing" (I'm getting sick of the word modesty). I just turned 28 and come from Southern California where sinful dressing flourishes but I have been dressing appropriate for a lil over a year now and I know my readers enjoy my weekly photos for the same reasons, encouragement. God bless!


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